How do you handle coming up short with your new year’s resolutions or bucket list goals? So many people are talking about intentions and manifestesting what you want. But what happens when you fail? What if your resolve for this year has already failed? Some of us have holes in our bucket list of dreams. Now, it’s time to patch those holes up. Being an expert on failure (only because I’ve failed so many times, I wrote the book on it) I have three things to help you when you fall short of any goal.
1. Start where you are. Don’t look back, don’t wish to be somewhere else, take that first step from where you are. It’s natural to wish for a different starting point or to lament the past, but the key to moving forward is accepting where you are right now. Your current position, no matter how challenging, is the perfect launchpad for your journey towards success. That first step doesn’t have to be huge or groundbreaking; it just must be forward. The past is a place of reference, not residence. Learn from it, but don’t live in it. Embrace the present moment, as it’s the only one where you can act. The future front-row you dream about begins with the actions you take today.
2. Learn from Failure
Failure is not the end; it’s an integral part of the learning process. When you stumble, it’s not a signal to give up, but an opportunity to grow. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this experience?” Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, focus on how it can guide your future actions. Thomas Edison famously said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Adopting this mindset transforms failure from a setback into a steppingstone. Each mistake teaches you something valuable, bringing you one step closer to your goal. Remember, the only true failure is giving up. If you’re willing to learn and adapt, you’re still on the path to success.
3. Celebrate Your Wins
Success is sweeter when shared with those who understand your journey. Celebrate your wins with people in your inner circle – your front-row friends who know your struggles and support your dreams. There’s no need to broadcast every achievement on social media. True joy comes from sharing your milestones with those who have been with you through thick and thin.
These moments of celebration are not just about acknowledging success; they’re about reinforcing the bonds that sustain you through tough times. Your inner circle isn’t just there to cheer for you; they’re the ones who offer a shoulder to lean on, provide honest feedback, and keep you grounded. Their support and understanding add depth and meaning to your achievements.
Overcoming failure isn’t just about reaching a destination; it’s about the growth and learning that happen along the way. Start from where you are, use failure as a learning tool, and share your successes with those who truly matter. This journey is uniquely yours, but remember, you’re not alone. Every step you take is a testament to your resilience and a step closer to your dreams. Keep moving forward, and let your failures be the foundation of your greatest successes.
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Here’s to your success even after failure,
Your Head Usher,
Marilyn
PS, this is the photo of my dear friend who lost her life this week. Marla Laughlin, thank you for being an incredible friend and I promise to stay connected to Jim and let him know we’re thinking of him.
