Your path to the front-row is not always easy. If you find yourself in a seat that you don’t like, you have two choices.
1. Change your seat. If you don’t like your relationship? Get a new one. If you don’t like your job, get a new one. If you don’t like your health, change your habits to get better health. Don’t like your circle of friends that you hang out with? Get a new circle of friends to hang out with.
That all sounds super simplistic, and NOT always easy. I get it. It’s not always easy to change a relationship. Trust me, leaving my first husband of one year back in 1991 was the hardest thing I had to do. But, with any act of courage there is a reward. I was able to make my list of front-row traits in a partner and I met my Frenchie!
Let’s say you have a toxic family member. It’s not so easy to get a new family! Or your job. I don’t mean to say up and quit your job. And, I certainty don’t mean to sound simplistic to just ‘get better health’. Sometimes, changing your seat is a long-term project, and that’s okay. Sometimes, it’s just changing where you’re sitting in a meeting or conference or concert. But other times it’s more complicated than that. But, there is hope. There is a second choice.
2. Change the perspective of the seat that you are in.
If you can’t change the seat that you are in, the hand that you were dealt, the situation that has presented itself to you…then shift your perspective of that seat. Look at the big picture, look at all the benefits of the perspective you have from that seat. Make a list of all the good that comes from that seat. Maybe it’s not as bad as you thought. Maybe it’s not a permanent as you thought. Maybe there is a reason for you to be in that (not ideal) seat. Think about the view, the feel of it, the whole situation, and shift your perspective and attachment you have to that seat. Suddenly, you’ll have a new found appreciation for that seat! Mindset is so crucial in mental health and personal growth. Today’s front-row Friday video shows an example how someone in a hospital bed (they did NOT choose that seat) who had a roommate moaning in pain super loud (they did NOT choose that roommate). Instead of complaining about the seat they were in (all the noise) and demanding a new room, they literally felt compassion for the other patient and asked for prayers for healing. Can you imagine? THAT was a perspective shift. They couldn’t change their seat, but they changed their perspective the seat they were in. Of course I’m talking about my Frenchie who is the most optimistic person and one of the most self-less and compassionate people I know. Watch today’s video and learn what it’s like to truly shift your perspective on a seat that you don’t like.
Remember, any seat with the right mindset can be a front-row seat!
Your head usher,
Marilyn
